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How To Use Shadow Work As A Tool For Healing

“ Healing does not mean the damage never existed.

It means the damage is no longer in control of your life. ”

The duality of the shadow holds both our greatest fears yet at the same time offers us an opportunity to experience our highest potential.

Reaching this potential is the destination while healing and wholeness with oneself becomes our ultimate journey.

So, come travel into the shadows with me where we will shine a light into the dark corners of the mind………

First, let’s take a deeper look into the shadow self, what exactly it is, along with how ‘shadow work’ can become a helpful and healing means of communication with this part of our being.

As you can see the shadow self is a natural part of who we are and serves the basic survival function as we experience life here on earth. As long as we stay conscious of it and its influences we begin to realize how little persuasive power it truly has. In turns realizing how much personal power we own by simply choosing to define how we want to view life, ourselves, and others. Even on the darkest of days trying to find the silver lining, however small it maybe, is the way, my friend, to true and forever lasting inner peace.

Shadow Work 3 Step Process

1. Raise Awareness

First, its important to remember that ALL emotions are valid and important for our growth. Becoming aware of the various emotions you feel throughout the day is key! Threw becoming aware of these emotional patterns you begin to better judge which ones are serving your highest good versus dragging you down and burdening you energetically.

Throughout the day begin to notice and make a note of when you’re feeling sad, happy, joyful, or depressed.

Notice the words that you say to others. How do others speak to you? What type of individuals are drawn to you? This all speaks volumes.

Common Shadow Thoughts Include

The Shadow can be notorious for making us believe we have no power and feel like a victim……

Self-Critical Thoughts

Pessimistic Thoughts

Thoughts of Loss or Failure

Viewing The Future Negatively And Expecting The Worst

Constant Worry

Thoughts of Being Treated Unfairly and Blaming Others for Ones Choices

“Should Have” or “Could Have”

You will soon notice the more you become aware of how your shadow talks to you, the more power is there to change its patters with it less and less dictating your behavior. The challenge comes into play when the habits and belief systems we’ve acquired are so ingrained and so strongly believed that it’s tough to see the ‘forest before the trees’ so to speak. Belief is very powerful and if certain beliefs are holding you back from creating the life you truly desire and deserve, it’s time to shed those so you can experience all the the joys life has to offer.

2. Meditation